Skills for healthy relationships

I was doing some research today in regards to being a better romantic partner. Trying to learn from my mistakes. I ran into a TEDtalk with Dr. Joanne Davila. She made some good points.  She discussed having insight, mutuality and emotion regulation. Romantic Competence. 

Insight- Why are you doing the things that you are doing? with insight you can learn from your mistakes and develop a better understanding for what is right for you.

Mutuality- Both people have needs & Both sets of needs matter. Needing to be willing to meet your partners needs.

Emotion Regulation- Regulating your emotion in response to things that happen in your relationship.

she goes into each point a little more in depth, and has some examples for each one. There is a lot of information in a short amount of time. It's worth the watch.