I have been thinking about how I would handle getting back together with an ex or potentially my next transitional experience with my next family. I have learned from a lot reflecting on the last two years, and also on things that never crossed my mind to do. This is what I have come up with, a list of items that I would present to my partner, we could add any steps that she would feel needed to be included, but I think this would be a really good skeleton of how we could make things work. Looking at this list, this is something that I feel really should have been implemented. I let the excitement of buying the house and my eagerness to get the ball rolling on the next step cloud my already clouded vision of how it would work.
How I would Handle getting back together OR my next family transitional experience
- Forgive for past transgressions and start with the clean slate mindset
- Sit down & Develop clear written expectations so we are on the same page
- Generate written list of Needs & Share with partner ( so partner can use to reference)
- Set any boundaries needed, verbalize to partner and give to partner (so they can use to reference)
- Start transitional counseling
- Set a target date to move in advance so we can ramp up the kids
- Mini morning check ins to discuss daily needs or concerns
- Sunday night weekly check in to write down needs of coming week or current concerns
- Open dialog about concerns if need be to prevent snowballing to explosive outcomes
-Remind partner it's us against the world and not us against each other or Matt against the world
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