I was turned onto the Mel Robbins podcast recently. Excellent content, straight forward and she delivers the information in a simple and easy way to understand. She has recently launched a free part course called taking control, and since I'm on a journey I figured that I would officially start it tonight. I made it through the first video and through the 1st part of the workbook. It did make me think about what was going on over the last few years though, and really put it into perspective as to how fucked up and high stress of a situation that we were info. Covid, isolation, blending 5 people under a new roof without the tools to do so, personal traumas, I was most certainly still in the mental fuckery of divorce and dealing with a crazy ex wife, followed buy last years losses.
It really is no fucking wonder how everything combusted. We always got so caught up in the moment, that I don't think we gave ourselves any grace when it came to the reality of what was going on and exactly how much was going on. I know for me it ties directly into the connections that I made in tonight's segments. What resonated with me tonight was how, clearly, I was stuck in a freeze response due to high levels of stress over the last 5 years. Fight / Flee/ Freeze , a direct stress response to change of all levels and sorts. Because of that I know that I certainly go to a point of low energy because I was constantly overthinking and over analyzing. Basically my brain was operating on survival mode. Because of this I narrowing my focus where my brain and body only dealt with what was in front of me, but was blind to the bigger picture and solutions to things outside of that narrow focus that I was in. I was stuck in coping mode.
It's because of this I missed a lot of cues and and lot of things that my partner needed. Which caused more pain and hurt. Things that are easy to see now that I'm not overloaded with stress. Easy things that I missed. I'm 40 minutes into the first segment and there's the 1st knife to the gut. I know there are going to be plenty more of those over the next few hours of the course. The rest of the course tonight was spent talking about the "gas gauge" for all different things in your life, and how they relate to your energy. Going through all of the gauges on paper really made it apparent that I have been stuck in coping mode. Next course we will start getting into the things that we can do to break those cycles. This whole situation has me so motivated to make progress on myself because I can't go through something like this again. It's just too painful. I have included the link to the Site incase you are interested in checking it out. I think it'll help a lot of people, and it's truly free. Not just a teaser lesson and then hitting a pay wall.
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